21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything
Too many of us feel trapped in stagnant romantic, family or workplace relationships. Weighed down by toxic thoughts and emotions, we might be quick to judge and slow to pardon, and self-righteous about our feelings as we dwell on memories of what we or others did (or failed to do). In this new book and CD, Iyanla Vanzant challenges us to liberate ourselves from the wounds of the past and to embrace the new power of forgiveness.
With Iyanla’s 21-Day Forgiveness Plan, you’ll explore relationship dynamics with your parents, children, friends, partners, co-workers, bosses, yourself and even God. With journaling work and Emotional Freedom Techniques (also known as ‘tapping’), you’ll learn to live with more love; gain new clarity on your life, lessons and blessings; and discover a new level of personal freedom, peace and wellbeing.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean agreeing with, condoning, or even liking what has happened. Forgiveness means letting go and knowing that – regardless of how challenging, frightening or difficult an experience may seem – everything is just as it needs to be in order for you to grow and learn. When you focus on how things ‘should’ be, you deny the presence and power of love. Accept the events of the past, while being willing to change your perspective on them. As Iyanla says, ‘Only forgiveness can liberate minds and hearts once held captive by anger, bitterness, resentment and fear. Forgiveness is a true path to freedom that can renew faith, build trust and nourish the soul.
I never thought of “forgiveness as a form of love” until I read it in the book. Reading about forgiveness is one thing, but having a mentor walk you thru the steps is another. Iyanla is authentic…she doesn’t sugar coat anything. She says for some the process can be like extracting a tooth without Novocain (which I can relate to as I sit with a tooth dangling, waiting for my oral surgery appointment) and for others like walking up a steep mountain with 100 pounds on your back.
I love her candidness – she was going to beat the crap out of someone and she isn’t even prone to violence. Someone real is my hero, not to say that I put her on a pedestal. I just respect people who are frank. If you’ve read Peace from Broken Pieces, this is the next book.
Disclaimer – I haven’t gone through all 21 days, just the first and I perused the rest of the days. Iyanla recommends 30-60 minutes a day as you need to journal and process stuff and do the work. I just don’t have that kind of time commitment right now, but vacation is coming – Hallelujah. I love the concepts and will work the book when I have 21 days to devote to the whole process. Also, I would advise getting the physical version of the book. Kindle is great for space saving, but I’d rather be writing in a physical book. On the other hand, keeping notes on the Kindle version is private.